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Dear Sherri Shepard: My 3 Rules Before Getting Married…Again

May 21, 2014

Oh Sherri!

I am just mortified at what I am reading and seeing about the men in your life.  They are cray-cray.

I am speaking to you from experience so I am not in judgement.  Except for the fact that you are playing with “big dollars”, I come to you as a soul sister just sharing some peer-to-peer insight.  I admire you for all of your business and artistic ventures and successes.  You have done all that without a man in your life.  I know that you want to share your exciting times with someone special, don’t we all, but there are times where that someone special may not be as special as we think.

Now, I know that my second ex-, let’s refer to him as Mr. B…well, Mr. B comes to my blog ever so often just to see what I am writing about.  I want to say, on the record, that Mr. B and I still get along.  We don’t spar much and we are moving forward in our lives, just separately.  He has been cordial and I thank him for his civility.

It’s my first ex that is Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde.  In fact, I do wish that he and Han Solo could have traded places in that freezer gas thing from Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back.  My first ex deserves it.  Let’s call it him…The Thing.


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Yes, my first ex is The Thing.

Now, I am sure Sherri can relate, but sadly, she has two things!


Another Marriage, Sherri?

Well, I don’t know if Sherri is even thinking about getting married again while she is going through this mess with this ne’re-do-well, who wants full custody of a child that isn’t even born yet.  (Pull-eeezzzee!)

But, if she finds this post sometime down the road after she has recovered from the heartache and has a new love in her life—Sherri, just roll these three quick thoughts around in your head– Just as I will IF I decide to be thrice a bride.



My 3 Rules Before Getting Married…Again

1.  How ever you feel about him, prepare to fight him (not physically, but intellectually), because you never know anyone until you have to fight them:  Is he a dirty fighter that would throw sand in your eyes to blind you or the kind that would bow before a Judo match and play fair?  See, we are blind sighted by love and feeling all mushy and gushy about our main squeeze (men do this over women, too).  You probably could never imagine fighting him or wanting to hurt him.  Well, sister, we’ve both made that mistake in the past and now it’s time to face the real-real.  A prenuptial agreement is a great way to begin to start to prepare to fight, but its not enough. YOUR FOCUS HAS TO ALWAYS BE ON YOU!  How will you win?  Emotionally? Legally?…but especially emotionally.  Because “serial monogamists” tend to repeat the same behaviors expecting different outcomes and its a debilitating kind of emotional roller coaster, whether you ended the relationship or not.  Just prepare, as you would for an earthquake, or any other disaster.

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Solange Vs Jay-z: Solange was wrong for that…or was she?

May 20, 2014

Yes, I’m a little late chiming in on this one since I am just getting back into the groove of this blog…my baby…but this story has not lost momentum.


Well, this story hasn’t died because everyone wants to know what prompted sweet Solange to go GlAmAZoN on her brother-in-law, Jay-Z.

Somehow, the “Perfect Fishbowl Life” that Beyonce and Jay-Z put out there in the media has finally shown a crack in that glass…and you know what happens to an aquarium when the glass breaks…


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And we all know that no ones family is perfect….

What I will say is that I am on #TeamSolange and while I don’t condone violence and I am not a body language expert, what I see and feel in my gut is pretty close to what Wendy Williams said on her show.

1. Solange was NOT drunk.

2. Solange was pissed about something and was at the end of her rope.  Let’s call it as it was- An ass beating of passion!  She clearly had not planned this or wasn’t thinking of any consequences while her adrenaline was high…right along with that leg and right bitch smackin’ hand.

3. Beyonce did not step in to defend Jay-Z.  I don’t know any woman who would’nt step in to either calm her sister down or defend her lovey-dovey husband.  In other words, she was on #TeamBeyonce.  Right?

Apparently, I am not the only one that thought Wendy had a clue. says: Wendy Williams is America’s best Solange/Jay Z commentator

We may never get all the facts and that’s ok.  What we did learn…or learn to remember is that people are people and people are not perfect.  Maybe this will spark someone who is upset with someone in their family to do the opposite of what Solange did, like pick up the olive branch instead of their hard case clutch.  Hit them with kindness.

#Bring Back Our Girls

May 11, 2014

There are reasons why this post is necessary. Although, I am African American (Not African), I stand in solidarity with our First Lady, Michelle Obama, on the hopes, wishes and prayers for these young Nigerian women and their return.

Now, I could go on about the group that claimed responsibility for kidnapping them from their school but I don’t want to even post the name of the group. They are without a doubt a group of evil demonic monsters from the belly of hell and to their place of origin I hope they swiftly return!






Meany Japan Jokes Quack Gilbert Gottfried Right Out Of A Job

March 16, 2011

Meany Japan Jokes Quack Gilbert Gottfried Right Out Of A Job

Oh, yes.  I, Seriously McMillan and been hella busy, but this caught my eye and I had to take a moment to comment, of course.

Funny man, Gilbert Gottfried, who has been the iconic quack behind the Aflac duck, has been relieved of duty after tasteless jokes were tweeted.  Well, some call the jokes tasteless. Aflac certainly didn’t think much of the jokes.  I thought the jokes were along the lines of your basic “Yo mama so fat” jokes, but, the timing for them was totally off.  Right now is certainly not the time.  Making jokes at the expense of thousands of lives during such a traumatic time is not the way to go.  

I know that Gilbert’s humor is off-beat, to say the least, as well as, off-color at times, but there are times when sensitive subjects and issues should not be available for public consumption.  Maybe his friends and family know his style and sense of humor and wouldn’t subject him to such scrutiny.  I don’t think he thought of that before he looked like a twit for the jokes he tweeted.

The Aflac duck voice will no longer be a gig for famed comedian Gilbert Gottfried. The Aflac insurance company has fired the spokesman for making jokes via Twitter about the recent natural disaster in Japan.

The comedian lends his distinctive voice to a duck character in Aflac’s commercials.

During the weekend, he tweeted: “Japan is really advanced; they don’t go to the beach, the beach comes to them.” And, “I just split up with my girlfriend, but like the Japanese say, there’ll be another one floating by any minute now.”

Thousands of people have been reported dead in Japan following an earthquake and tsunami last week.


Roses For Valentine’s Day: The Hidden Meanings Of Their Colors

February 7, 2011

Although we may not always be aware of the meaning behind the colors of roses we give as gifts, be aware that every rose of every color does have its very own special meaning.

There are many meanings of the colors of roses you may give to someone, but after doing the research, the colors of roses listed below seem to have just about the same meanings no matter where you look.

I thought this would be a perfect time to shine some light on this floral topic.  With Valentine’s Day right here, are you going to give roses to your valentine?   If you are giving roses to your favorite guy or gal for Valentine’s Day, why not give them a unique varied bouquet of roses.  Give roses that carry the meaning of all the feelings you have for your loved one (or ones).

Classic Red Roses

There are no rules broken in giving a classic red or deep red rose.  Red roses are the most popular of the Valentine’s Day roses.  You’ll recognize this by their skyrocketing prices during the latter part of January and early February.   The deep red rose represents an unspoken beauty of love.  The deep red rose leave nothing to the imagination, yet speaks volumes without saying a word.  Deep red roses are heart-warming and bold.  You should know that if you are receive one or a bouquet of tender deep red roses, the one who gives them may not be able to put into words all the feelings they wish to express.  Hence, deep secrets receive via the deep red rose.

 The red rose, especially, a single red rose simply expresses, “I love you very deeply”.  Bright red roses are the greatest expression of romantic and abiding love. Their bright red shade expresses these emotions perfectly.   

Pink and Blush Roses

The innocent blush on the cheek of a special loved one would match the perfect pink rose bouquet.   Thinking of giving pink roses?  Pink roses are kissed with notes of grace and admiration for the recipient.  This is a perfect rose to give to someone you have loved from afar, but have yet to show your true feelings.  Think fresh.  Think new.  Think spring.  Think pink.

A pink rose is subtle, yet alluring.  Soft, yet joyful.  A pink rose sings  its own  song of a blossoming romance to come and an announcement of awakening affection.

Lavender Roses

A lavender rose is original in color.  The intention and rationale behind giving a lavender rose is to show a long-standing love and deep appreciation for the recipient.  It also shows the forethought and imaginative nature of the one giving the lavender bouquet.  The lavender rose is great to give to the one who may think you have forgotten them.  A bouquet of lavender roses is a perfectly romantic way to say that you didn’t forget them and that you will love them, come what may, forever.

Orange Roses

You thought your heart was on fire with the red rose?  Try an orange rose.  As fire and flame are hot, so is this little sassy number.  The orange rose is well-known for being the rose of desire and passionate energy.  So, if loving someone is just the tip of the iceberg, melt that ice with a flaming orange rose, baby.   Orange roses can be as bright orange as the fruit or subtle shades of peachy-orange blend.  No matter the shade, these roses are stunning.

Yellow Roses

Although unconventional, yellow roses make a statement when giving them to someone you love.  The yellow rose is commonly given as a bright, springy pop of color to a friend or a g-i-r-l friend.  If ther’s nothing going on in the romance department, but there is a connection that is deeper than just being simple acquaintances.  Yellow roses are great to give to family members who you love as well, but of course, not on a romantic level.

White Rose

There is a simple elegance to the classic white rose.  In stark contract to the red rose, the white rose and the red rose share similar meanings.  Yet, it is the white rose that takes on the more subtle approach to speaking volumes without saying a word.  Think of a white rose as a new beginning to a great romance.  Not only does it say, “I love you”… It also asks, “Will you love me, too?”


Caught Looking Trashy: 3 Tacky Celebs & The Fashions That Wore Them

November 21, 2010

These shoes were featured in a earlier post.  I mean, they may be funny as a sight gag, but to wear them in public…with money in them cheapens the person wearing them.  I can’t imagine ANYONE would really think these shoes are fashionable.  The shoes are hideous.  Lap dance not included.

Taylor Momsen

Taylor Momsen(via)What's in your shoe? Only $1?

Taylor Momsen already looks like last night’s cold pizza warmed over, so the sight of her in lingerie, stockings and stripper heels is fitting for looking like such a mess.  Notice the money in the shoe?  She should hit the salon with it.

Katie Price Silver Jumper

Katie Price

Here’s loveable Katie Price as Captain WTF in her silver satellite get-up.  Topple on over so I can get better cable reception, Katie.

Are there really any words to explain this Tila Tequila mess- of a mess- of a leather mess?

Tila Tequila

Yeah, Tila and Katie.  We know they’re fake, honey!  Silicone floats and seems to defy gravity, but your style seems to defy reason.


Give Him A Man-Gagement Ring: The Engagement Rings For Guys

November 21, 2010

They may not be fancy, but there is a new movement in our culture.  The movement is to bring the guys in on some of the traditions that are usually celebrated only by women. 

Women, especially in Western culture, traditionally receive an engagement ring as a symbol of their commitment and relationship to their fiancé, which usually results in a wedding.  Yes, I said, “usually results in a wedding”.

So what does a man-gagement ring symbolize?  Much of the same;  yet man-gagement rings are typically similar to a mens wedding band, which is usually a lot less showy than an engagement ring with a giant diamond or gem center stone.

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The Tioro Magagement Ring

The Tioro ring is a titanium band with a small diamond, priced at £79.99 ($140 US)—a far cry from the blinged-out engagement rings that don the ring fingers of well-heeled women worldwide. (Via)

A Fun Engagement Twist

This could put a fun twist into a couple’s engagement.  In my experience, popping the question usually comes as a surprise.  Guys like to surprise the woman of the their dreams with a stunning engagement ring on bended knee. So, this would present an issue for the gal who wants the chance to present a ring to the guy of her dreams.

He’s Proposed:  Your Turn?

I’m certainly not suggesting that you propose to your guy.  I mean, he’s already proposed, so you’re already engaged. 

My suggestion: If you really want to give your guy a man-gagement ring,  plan a nice dinner after he’s proposed to you.  Surprise him with his man-gagement ring and just fall in love all over again.  He will surely be as surprised, if not more shocked, as you were when he proposed to you.  Not only have you truly claimed your guy, but it will surely keep all the single ladies away.  Beyonce’s song literally tells a guy to, “Put a ring on it”.  Now, you can put a ring on him, too.