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Another Shooting of an Unarmed Black Man

April 8, 2015

As I write, I am sick to my stomach.  I debated whether I would watch the video of the murder of Mr. Walter Scott, who was shot and fatally wounded by a police officer who stopped him because he had a broken tail light.

How does this minor traffic infraction turn into murder?  Quite simply, most people, other than Black people are shocked.  As for me, I simply pray that my brother and my son will never become victims of this most disgusting behavior.  I am angry, but I am not as angry at this latest incident as I am with the culture behind it.  That being said, I believe there is not enough being done by people of color to stand up against this tyrranical society of police brutally killing Blacks (and other of color) for “crimes” that most non-Blacks or people of color have and continue to be given a pass for.

Does anyone remember the Civil Rights movement?  This is not some historical reminder film about Selma, this is reality.  This is our 2015 reality.  This will not stop until serious action is taken and laws are changed for the benefit of all.

MLK Day: More Than Just a 3 Day Weekend

January 19, 2015

Do people just consider MLK day another day of the weekend that you dont have school or work?

It would sadden me if this the case in our cultural reality because the works of Dr. Martin Luther King are invaluable.

The sacrifices of Black people during the Civil Rights movement are innumerable and the luxuries in society, albeit not equal to whites, are far more available to my generation and beyond than those who came before me.

How do you thank those who suffered having rocks pelt them til they bled or having attack dogs chew on their limbs or having water hoses blast them with such a force that it would keep them at bay?

How do you thank a generation of people that stood together until life got a little better for people of color?

Well, you can start today.  Just reflecting and remembring that the American Civil Rights movement was a sacrifice for all people given by Blacks.

If you don’t realize that there are benefits that you experience, no matter your skin color, because of their sacrifices, then I would invite you to take a few moments to use your favorite search engine and gain the knowledge you lack.

I am thankful for my ancestors who stood strong on the face of oppression and survived.  I hope that one day my grandchildren will know that the sarifices to make their generation a more civilized and progressive generation are being made today.

Enjoy your MLK Day and remember those who gave their lives for you to have it.

Til Next Time

Merry Christmas in 10 Languages

December 26, 2014

I love languages and I also like Christmas, so I thought it would be interesting to talk about what Merry Christmas sounds like (or how its said) in other languages.

I think it’s a way of looking outside of ourselves here in the US or mostly English speaking countries and see what other cultures say at Christmas time. So, here we go–here are 10 languages of my choosing and how Merry Christmas is said or read in those languages.

My hope one day is to actually know the languages, if not fluently, at least enough to know how to hold a conversation well in the future.


Christmas in many languages.

Christmas in many languages.

English – Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays (recently more popular)

Chinese – [Mandarin] – “Kung His Hsin Nien bing Chu Shen Tan”

German – “Froehliche Weihnachten”

Greek – “Kala Christouyenna”

Hawaiian – “Mele Kalikimaka”

Russian – “Pozdrevlyayu s prazdnikom Rozhdestva s Novim Godom

Italian – “Buone Feste Natalizie”

French- Joyeux Noël

Spanish – Feliz Navidad

Portuguese – “Feliz Natal” “Boas Festas”(Good Holidays)

Polish – “Wesolych Swiat Bozego Narodzenia”

Sony Pictures: Obama likes Django?

December 12, 2014

Didn’t we already know that there is a divide in Hollywood regarding black actors and their films and white actors and their films?

We already know that there was a lack of respect for black films that either are for entertainment or are telling a historical event.

Sony Pictures execs has made it very clear their top people feel that race is a race issue.

I mean, I watch white actors in films that are not geared toward my demographic and I watch black films that probably are geared to my demographic, but in my eyes I don’t really see the difference.

I pay way more attention to the story than I would to the fact that the people are either black or white acting in the film.

This week has been very interesting because of the leaks of emails that have made it public knowledge of the…. Well,  I wouldn’t say insensitive, but I would say typical behavior of white people….and not all white people, mind you, but those in power who you know feel that black films are “less than”.

Those “stereotypical whites” would make these kind of remarks. This week Sony Pictures Entertainment co-chairman Amy Pascal and producer Scott Rudin had some internal emails leaked to the public and although it was an em-bare-ass-ment,  Rudin is now backpedaling regarding the emails with an attempt to apologize.  Pfffft, please Scott.  Stop it now because I’m laughing so hard my side hurts.

I do think it’s too late and obviously we are seeing what these people really feel and it is not the truth that hurts it…it doesn’t hurt me reading about asking President Obama if he liked Django or Pascal asking Rudin if she should ask President Obama saw The Butler or Think Like a Man and Scott Rudin replying with [asking Obama if he likes] Ride Along (the movie with Kevin Hart and Ice Cube) also saying that he bets that Obama likes Kevin Hart.

I believe they are typical of many white Americans about blacks. White people not realizing that black people are educated or that black people are accomplished in society or that black people contribute to society on a large scale, and to have these people to make any sort of comment about President Obama, you know, I don’t find any offense to it.

What I do find offensive is why didn’t Pascal and Scott Rudin want to ask if Obama may have liked Spiderman or another one of many Pascal’s films that were made during her time at the Sony Pictures studio.  What about Casino Royale?  We know James Bond very popular– why didn’t she want to ask if Obama likes James Bond instead of assuming President Obama only watches Black Entertainment type films and not enjoy other types of flms.

Again, I am NOT offended at the fact that they mention these black films with black actors, I am offended that they didn’t include films with white actors.

It is not me who reminds me every day that I’m black, it’s everybody else reminding me that I’m black and whatever that means to them, because to me it means I am who I am.

When you have people like Amy Pascal and Scott Rudin who need the the “black dollar” for their films, it makes me second guess even supporting their endeavors.

Being a film aficionado myself, it’s very sad when you make these distinctions between black audience of white audiences when usually black audiences, at least the people that I know, don’t make these distinctions among themselves.  I don’t do it among my friends.

As I say that, I’m going to go out and go watch Hunger Games: Mockingjay.

As for Pascal,  Rudin and the many others–Closed minds think alike.

till next time

Marc Anthony: Yo Daddy Says “You’re Ugly!”

May 28, 2014

Marc Anthony: Yo Daddy Says “You’re Ugly!”

You know, sometimes it’s OKAY to be honest with your children. Like, when you tell them there is no Santa Claus or Easter Bunny, but telling your kid they are ugly…?  Ehhhhh?

Yet, international celebrity ex-Mr. J-LO and singer and actor (?), Marc Anthony’s dad theru all tact to the wind and told his boy he was Uh…Uh…Ugly!

I mean, everyone has a unique look and ugly is in the eye of the beholder, right?

His dad said, “Son, I’m ugly and you’re ugly—work on your personality.”

Well, there is some sound advice, right? At least the end of the quote. Everyone can work on their personality, right? I’m looking for the bright side of this whole father-son connection.

Anthony told Men’s Fitness. I swear to God. I told him a couple of months ago, I said, ‘Dad, you remember telling me that when I was little?’ He’s like, ‘I’ll tell you that shit today, too!’ I think it served me well. I think confidence is a powerful thing.”


Confidence, personality…I guess Marc really worked on those since he has been married to and recently dating some of the most lovely ladies in the Latin community.

I still can’t imagine someone calling their child ugly…and by who’s standards?  Shallow Hal?

It’s great that he has become successful but I won’t how much MORE confident he would have had a parent just love him for what he looked like and called him handsome.  That also makes me wonder if Marc may say something like that to his kids when they are older.  In my opinion, it’s an unkind thing to cay to your child but he took those lemons and limes and made a Margarita!

For me, Marc Anthony lost  me as a fan him AND IT’S NOT BECAUSE OF HIS LOOKS….It was because I hated the character he played in the movie The Substitute (1995) with Tom Berringer. He’s played a ruthless gangster and I never gave him a chance after that.  Call that perfect casting!

Finally Marc says: “You know what it is? I think it’s confidence,” Anthony said. “I do not lack confidence. I’ve been able to do what I do for many years and I think I’m good at it. And that confidence and just being a good person overall, I don’t rely on my looks to stand out. It’s all in the details.”





Here’s some “ugly” for the cover Men’s Fitness. I really don’t see what’s so fit about him. Thin, yes. Bangin’ body? Where it at????




Dear Sherri Shepard: My 3 Rules Before Getting Married…Again

May 21, 2014

Oh Sherri!

I am just mortified at what I am reading and seeing about the men in your life.  They are cray-cray.

I am speaking to you from experience so I am not in judgement.  Except for the fact that you are playing with “big dollars”, I come to you as a soul sister just sharing some peer-to-peer insight.  I admire you for all of your business and artistic ventures and successes.  You have done all that without a man in your life.  I know that you want to share your exciting times with someone special, don’t we all, but there are times where that someone special may not be as special as we think.

Now, I know that my second ex-, let’s refer to him as Mr. B…well, Mr. B comes to my blog ever so often just to see what I am writing about.  I want to say, on the record, that Mr. B and I still get along.  We don’t spar much and we are moving forward in our lives, just separately.  He has been cordial and I thank him for his civility.

It’s my first ex that is Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde.  In fact, I do wish that he and Han Solo could have traded places in that freezer gas thing from Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back.  My first ex deserves it.  Let’s call it him…The Thing.


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Yes, my first ex is The Thing.

Now, I am sure Sherri can relate, but sadly, she has two things!


Another Marriage, Sherri?

Well, I don’t know if Sherri is even thinking about getting married again while she is going through this mess with this ne’re-do-well, who wants full custody of a child that isn’t even born yet.  (Pull-eeezzzee!)

But, if she finds this post sometime down the road after she has recovered from the heartache and has a new love in her life—Sherri, just roll these three quick thoughts around in your head– Just as I will IF I decide to be thrice a bride.



My 3 Rules Before Getting Married…Again

1.  How ever you feel about him, prepare to fight him (not physically, but intellectually), because you never know anyone until you have to fight them:  Is he a dirty fighter that would throw sand in your eyes to blind you or the kind that would bow before a Judo match and play fair?  See, we are blind sighted by love and feeling all mushy and gushy about our main squeeze (men do this over women, too).  You probably could never imagine fighting him or wanting to hurt him.  Well, sister, we’ve both made that mistake in the past and now it’s time to face the real-real.  A prenuptial agreement is a great way to begin to start to prepare to fight, but its not enough. YOUR FOCUS HAS TO ALWAYS BE ON YOU!  How will you win?  Emotionally? Legally?…but especially emotionally.  Because “serial monogamists” tend to repeat the same behaviors expecting different outcomes and its a debilitating kind of emotional roller coaster, whether you ended the relationship or not.  Just prepare, as you would for an earthquake, or any other disaster.

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Solange Vs Jay-z: Solange was wrong for that…or was she?

May 20, 2014

Yes, I’m a little late chiming in on this one since I am just getting back into the groove of this blog…my baby…but this story has not lost momentum.


Well, this story hasn’t died because everyone wants to know what prompted sweet Solange to go GlAmAZoN on her brother-in-law, Jay-Z.

Somehow, the “Perfect Fishbowl Life” that Beyonce and Jay-Z put out there in the media has finally shown a crack in that glass…and you know what happens to an aquarium when the glass breaks…


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And we all know that no ones family is perfect….

What I will say is that I am on #TeamSolange and while I don’t condone violence and I am not a body language expert, what I see and feel in my gut is pretty close to what Wendy Williams said on her show.

1. Solange was NOT drunk.

2. Solange was pissed about something and was at the end of her rope.  Let’s call it as it was- An ass beating of passion!  She clearly had not planned this or wasn’t thinking of any consequences while her adrenaline was high…right along with that leg and right bitch smackin’ hand.

3. Beyonce did not step in to defend Jay-Z.  I don’t know any woman who would’nt step in to either calm her sister down or defend her lovey-dovey husband.  In other words, she was on #TeamBeyonce.  Right?

Apparently, I am not the only one that thought Wendy had a clue. says: Wendy Williams is America’s best Solange/Jay Z commentator

We may never get all the facts and that’s ok.  What we did learn…or learn to remember is that people are people and people are not perfect.  Maybe this will spark someone who is upset with someone in their family to do the opposite of what Solange did, like pick up the olive branch instead of their hard case clutch.  Hit them with kindness.